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Talking to Your Kids (and yourself) about the trauma of evil.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Written by Jeremy Bouris, LPCC<\/em>
 
As believers in a loving God, it can be hard to know how to answer the questions our kids ask when evil strikes. Whether it\u2019s a school shooting, a televised assassination, or a deadly flood, children are seeing, hearing, or experiencing evil regularly. 

When our kids encounter these overwhelming events, their minds are unable to process the evil. Those experiences are best described as traumas; in so far as, trauma is the process of being overwhelmed by something that is experienced, as simultaneously unbearable and inexplicable. 

When children encounter traumatic evil and compare that with what they are told about God and his love it often leads them to ask: \u201cWhy would God allow _____ to happen?\u201d  
 
Here are four reflections for you to consider as you encounter this question with the children in your life:  
 
Honor their Invitation <\/strong>
 
When any child makes themselves vulnerable enough to share their deepest feelings and doubts you have just been invited as the \u201cGuest of Honor\u201d into to their heart. Imagine for a moment getting invited into a dinner at the Royal Palace or backstage to a Broadway Show. You aren\u2019t going to burst in shouting and spouting off. No, you\u2019re going to walk into the space with awe, slight trepidation and delight. There is a beauty in a child\u2019s heart, and when a child lets you in, honor the invitation and the dignity of what\u2019s there by thanking <\/strong>them for letting you in. <\/strong><\/em> 
 
Validate the Question  <\/strong>

Maybe you remember a time before you were numb to the traumatic evil of this world. You might even remember asking \u201cWhy would God _____?\u201d to a trusted adult or spiritual figure in your life. For many, that individual attempted to give you an answer before honoring the question and the emotion of the question. It\u2019s vitally important to tell our children that the question they are asking is one of the most important questions anyone can ask, and it has been asked by faithful God seekers for thousands of years. We need to praise our kids for being faithful to God by asking their hardest questions to him. <\/em> 
 
Embrace the Mystery  <\/strong>
 
One of the best answers to give a child asking, \u201cWhy did God let this Happen\u201d is: \u201cI don\u2019t know.\u201d<\/strong> That can be one of the hardest things for a parent to say to a child. However, nobody fully knows<\/em> why God allows evil and trauma to be persist. That doesn\u2019t mean there won\u2019t be some truths to bring into the conversation, but it\u2019s best if we don\u2019t try to assume that a portion of truth answers all of our kids questions.  
 
Tell a Story <\/strong>

Stories are more powerful than \u201canswers\u201d because stories go inside our heart in ways that thoughts can\u2019t. There are countless stories in the scripture and in your own life to draw upon that will resonate with your child\u2019s own processing of the evil they are taking in. One of the stories that illustrate God\u2019s patient heart towards our suffering is in John 11 when Jesus is slow to respond to one of his dearest friend Lazarus as he is dying and then dies. In that story Lazarus\u2019 sisters explicitly ask Jesus why<\/em> he let this happen to their brother. Jesus\u2019 response is profound. First his response is specifically tailored to Mary and Martha (we each need different parts of the answer first), it involved presence, stories, truth, anger at death, weeping, and amazingly the undoing of the death through his resurrection of Lazarus. Unsurprisingly, the story of Lazarus and Jesus\u2019 response is a great teacher for us as it deals with Mary and Martha\u2019s confusion and doubt, since Jesus\u2019 response offers truth, deep anger, empathetic and powerful grief, as well as powerful hope for future redemption when evil will be undone forever. Jesus\u2019 tears remind us that crying with our kids about their pain is a perfectly appropriate response.  
 
Ask the Question Back <\/strong>
 
Lastly, one of the best responses to a child\u2019s question of \u201cWhy God would allow _____?\u201d is to ask your child what they think the answer is. You probably won\u2019t be shocked to hear that a child\u2019s heart can often answer with profound insight.  
 
I pray you have the privilege of being with the children in your life as they ask this incredibly honest and important question.  <\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n
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Jeremy Bouris<\/h2>

Staff Therapist & Director<\/em><\/p>

Jeremy has been on staff at Bayside since 2020 and his graduate education was completed at Covenant Seminary in both Counseling and Divinity. He has extensive experience working with couples and individuals; specializing in sexual addiction, trauma, and spiritual abuse. <\/div>
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